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12:18 PM
January 23, 2012
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Alison Leigh Lilly
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After weeks of missed deadlines and inexplicable delays, we finally received a counter-proposal from my husband's ex about child custody changes with our up-coming move. We're… flabbergasted. She wants to drastically reduce his time with them to only a few weeks a year while also stipulating that if the schedule changes at the last minute, he forfeits his time with them completely (under the new proposal, she could deliberately sabotage the only time we have with the kids by insisting on a schedule change at the last minute that conflicted with our work schedules). We received this counterproposal the day before the movers come and we leave for Seattle, despite a long legal process during which we requested her feedback for weeks and received nothing but silence in return.
We're out of time. We're almost out of money and we're getting pretty low on energy and hope, too. So we'd like to ask you for your support and your prayers.
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12:48 PM
January 23, 2012
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Soliwo
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I am an in debt and out of work student, so I cannot help financially. But I will sing my songs, offer my candles and say my prayers in your family's honour. Because that is what you are, a family, and you are a key part of it. Foster relations are sacred too, not just blood. I think you are awesome in supporting your husband in this struggle and in caring for his kids as you do. Don't give up!
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12:50 PM
January 23, 2012
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Amber
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I'm so sorry you're going through this! I will send energy and prayers towards your family. I have experienced similar worries and situations, and its heart wrenching … my thoughts are with you.
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3:10 PM
January 23, 2012
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Tony Burton
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Alison, as a divorced dad, I can understand the anguish and heartache this causes for you and your husband. I fought running battles over trying to get time with my kids, and because I moved around a lot (consulting work), it was nearly impossible to get any appreciable amount of time with them.
Sending support and positive energy your way, and wishing you all the best in this battle.
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4:52 PM
January 23, 2012
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Sandi
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I just found your blog today through a friend. I will be following now and sending prayers and hope your way. I made a donation. I hope it helps. It's not much but I hope it helps :)
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8:51 PM
January 23, 2012
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Alison Leigh Lilly
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Thank you so much to everyone who has reached out today in support and love! Through your words, your prayers and your donations, our hearts have been uplifted! We're feeling more hopeful, more energized to keep fighting to make sure we can keep our quirky, silly family together and ensure that the kids get to see their dad.
Jeff is still in talks with our lawyer about what our next move should be, and tomorrow the movers come to stow everything in boxes and move it to Seattle before we get on the road ourselves. We'll only be online sporadically for the rest of the month while we make the journey and settle into our new home, but we'll carry the light of your prayers and support in our hearts as we make the drive. I have absolute faith that we'll be able to see the kids again, no matter how long it takes to win this, and I know that our family will be stronger because they will know how hard we've worked to make sure we stay a part of their lives. Thank you, thank you, so much.
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11:29 PM
January 23, 2012
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Shawn Catherine Fish
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Here are some websites with advocates and resources for you to check out (most of which are free) …
http://www.fathers-rights.com/
http://www.fathershelphotline.com/
http://www.aboutthechildren.org/
(There are others, too, but this is a start.)
I'd recommend calling as well as e-mailing straightaway.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and send positive energy for all of you!
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1:22 AM
January 24, 2012
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melanie griffin
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This is so sad. Not unexpected, I suppose. For six years, I was estranged from my nephew Jeff's (your husband) beautiful kids because of his ex-wife. As you know, I was overjoyed to see the kids again at your wedding in September. I still wear the round shell that his oldest daughter and I picked up on the beach as a symbol of redemption and reconciliation. I am praying for love and hope to overcome.
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12:04 PM
January 24, 2012
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I will never understand why someone would use a child to seek "revenge", and for it to be a Mother doing it, just blows my mind even more. Tis not love that guides her actions, and though I know it doesn't help now, be assured that your children are much more in tune with what she's doing than she thinks. At some point, she will have a lot of explaining to do to children who already know the "truth". Is is possible that he turn the tables around on her and go after full custody? Just a thought….
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2:55 PM
January 24, 2012
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Wow. What a bad experience you all are going through. I am sure that all your readers support you in this tough time.
I think the best weapon is a good lawyer – the best you can afford. They can think of things nobody else can, and prevent others from taking away your rights.
I can't send money, but hope that this is not a problem for you in the future, and that things will get better and that you win your case.
I am glad you shared this. If things turn out badly, remember that in many states kids can choose after a certain age who to be with. ::hugs::
-Betsy
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12:00 AM
January 26, 2012
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Wow… I'm so sorry to hear that you are being put through this! Our prayers are with you.
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3:46 PM
January 30, 2012
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Seorsa
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Hi Ali (& Jeff),
I'm so sorry to read about your custody troubles. Those of us who have been through this sort of thing understand how heartwrenching and demoralizing it can be. Just continue to be calm and rational, and accept the fact that not everything is in your control. As long as you are a loving example to the children, then you're doing right.
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